It’s like John Lennon sang, “Life is what happens to you while you’re busy making other plans.” If you are constantly trying to plan your romantic future, you are going to be pretty disappointed because love doesn’t operate in an Excel spreadsheet. And if your search for your soulmate takes up most of your free time, I’ve got some advice for you (and you may not want to hear it): Leave love alone and it will find you!
What does this mean? It means you need to stop obsessing about your love life (or lack thereof) and start focusing on the things that you are most passionate about and just dive in, head first. Have you always wanted to go scuba diving? Get certified. Want to take a writing class? Go for it. Want to learn to cook? Take a class or two.
The most important thing in life is to learn to love yourself first. The only way to do this is to take care of your own needs. Are you eating right? Exercising properly? Sleeping enough? If you answered “no” to any of these questions, I ask you this: What are you waiting for? It’s time to put yourself first.
Here’s how. When you wake up in the morning, exhale deeply. Stretch. Wash your face. Say this mantra: “I welcome this new day,” and really mean it. There will be many challenges that will present themselves to you. How will you handle them? Hold your head up high as you start your routine. Honor your commitment to yourself.
It’s time that you live your life and I mean, really live it. Don’t ask “What if?” and doubt your decisions. Trust your higher intuitive nature. Be cognizant of your surroundings. Embrace positive energy. Start wearing more yellow because it is the color of happiness and optimism. Make sure to fill your day with fresh air and laughter.
Take a walk on the beach. Sing along to your favorite song on the radio. Go bowling. When you find your inner calm and satisfaction, love will come knocking. Do you know why it will come? It’s not because you bought a new shirt or changed your hairstyle. It’s because you will exude confidence. This is the kind of thing that can only come from being true to yourself and loving yourself in spite of your faults.
No one is perfect, don’t punish yourself for not meeting some unrealistic expectation.